Vivamis123,

So sorry for these things that have happened, and you did what you had to do.

I don't want to be an... Jesus (can I say "asshole" here?), (can I say "Jesus"?) - anyway - do you feel "safe" now? I mean, is he the type of guy that will come across an ocean to hurt you? Have you taken any sort of "self-defense" classes? You need to know what kind of crazy you're dealing with here. You express this, and judging from certain obvious clues, this was quite a while ago, so you are most likely "okay". But for those that have had recent attacks, or would be going through the same thing, quite possibly in the present, and fortuitously reading this - what is the "best" option?

I mean, bluntly, what DO you do? I am a man, and I can be mean, and I know if my kids were taken from me, I might not ever stop trying to find them. Truth is, I am most happily married, and I would never, ever, do any of the things you have pointed out... but I do understand a little bit of the psychopath, what can stop them?

This is a terribly sexist, racist, unbalanced world. Money always helps... I don't want to be bleak, but the reality of this is unsettling. What options are available? What can be done to stop this? Really?

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