I mean isn't it better to be honest with someone instead of lying to them? I know truth hurts but i know i would want people to be honest with me up front instead of talking behind my back or lying. So what is the best approach not saying anything?

I think it depends on the circumstances.

1. I think you have to determine if it's your truth or the other person's truth.

2. I think you need to determine if telling the person what you consider the truth is something that would really help him/her.

3. Is the person in danger if you don't tell them this "truth?"

4. I think you have to determine what your intention is?

5. I think after taking all of the above in to consideration we do the least hurtful thing.

In other words if the person isn't in danger and what you have to say would only hurt them then I wouldn't do it.

Usually if someone wants advice, they will ask for it.

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I have to agree with LK. Telling the truth when it serves no other purpose but to hurt another isn't worth the trouble, you are better off not saying anything. Or you could always look for something nice to say without lying. A rather simple example would be if a friend asks what you think of her new dress, and you think it is the ugliest thing ever, but your friend obviously loves it, you could say something like "I am glad that you really like your new dress" or if it is a nice color but terrible style, "I really like that color on you" See, you didn't lie, but you didn't hurt her feelings either.

Hope that this helps.

I agree..it depends on the circumstances. If telling the truth is only going to cause hurt and not really serve a purpose than it is probably better left unsaid.

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"IS Telling the Truth Good or Bad"

Great question and a question l find very difficult to answer .

My first feelings when l read your question was the children . If a three year old girl , any girl , asked an adult, " What is rape and Murder ? " the truth in the answer would have to be altered because of the sensitive nature of the question and ofcourse you might ask " Why do you ask that question ? "
But honestly l feel the question is not valid because it doesn't fit in the possible answers . The question could ask " What age should truth be administered to a child ?

No one can convince me ,after thirteen years of owning a Lic. Daycare with my daughter, that it is correct to tell a child every answer to every question pertaining to adult categories because l would be put in Jail if l told a Daycare child what rape is because he\she asked me .We talk around it and avoid it and pass it on to the parents but even if my own little child asked me about Brutal Rape because of something seen on TV l would not explain that to my own very young child .

As you all stated it surely depends on the circumstances. IS Telling the Truth Good Or Bad?

mooomooo

Guess what i meant in any situation is Telling the Truth good or bad? Not out to hurt anyone but i know the truth does hurt. When do you think you should confront a friend about something should you lie or tell them honestly how you feel?

Hi Comet!! I'm still a little confused....if knowing the truth is going to help someone than even if it hurts temporarily but will help them in the long run it might be better to tell them..but again it depends on the situation, I think. I would not recommend lying but bringing something to someones attention when it will serve no purpose is not necessary I don't think...

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Hi RevKathyv! My intentions are usually good i don't like hurting people sometimes i can be insesitive but when i bring up the truth to someone i want them to come forward and admit to something is wrong which usually it is. they have a hard time seeing in themselves these people i know would rather run from situations than deal with them head on i never met so many people that are scared to deal with something. This is where i was frustrated

When i get close to figuring someone out like my friend they would rather just run away and i never hear from them again its not solving things just makes them worse when you keep things bottled up that just shows i was right. if i wasn't things would be different and we still be friends. Does this make me a bad friend?

Your right MOOOMOOO it depends on the situation! What do you say to a child when they ask if there is a Santa or not? I'm sure my neices will bring that up one day any idea's?

EveryONE can handle the TRUTH. That is one of the functions of the soul. For some people it may take time, but until they arrive to the point of TRUTH, they will have to live with imBALANCE. TRUTH is a lot easier to live with then UNTRUTH. REMEMBER, if another person cannot handle the TRUTH, that shortsightedness is not yours. TRUTH does not have to BE spoken or realized to BE UNDERSTOOD. TRUTH just is.

If you feel uncomfortable about speaking the TRUTH to someone who has a hard time accepting it, you do not have to speak it. There are other ways to express TRUTH. DO NOT make up an UNTRUTH to mask or protect someone from the TRUTH. This is where imBALANCE starts to set in. TRUTH can either BE one of two things. It can BE the TRUTH or it can BE an UNTRUTH; there are no shades of gray.


HELLO IT'S ME: An Interview With GOD
Chapter" Truth, Love and Understanding
Pg: 133

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