Those we love and those we are repelled by are both mirrors of ourselves. Who are we attracted to? People who have the same traits as we have, but more so. We want to be in their company because subconsciously we feel that by doing so we too might manifest more of those traits as well.

By the same token we are repelled by people who reflect back to us traits that we deny in our own selves. So if we are having a strong negative reaction to someone, you can be sure that they possess some traits in common with you, traits that you are not willing to embrace. If you were willing to accept those qualities, then they wouldn’t upset you.

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Is this true? Do others reflect us?

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To a limited extent I believe this may well be true, but I tend to think there may be additional reasons why we may be attracted towards another person as well. As humans, we're social animals and, with that being the case, it's quite natural that we'll be attracted to some and not others. And since we tend to be territorial, we are naturally attracted towards those who are at least somewhat similar to us.

Those that are quite different from us pose a different response-- at least at first. Part of that response is curiosity, but another is hesitation. "Outsiders" could pose a threat to us and, therefore, we would be curious as to whether that was the case, and we'd tend to be hesitant at least at first.

Our evolutionary responses are very often behind much of our behavior even though we may not recognize it.

Shalom,
Vern

Yes, Metis I agree. I think there are many different factors involved why we attract certain people in our life. I find it better for me not to analize too deep. Staying on the surface of thought is the way for me, it does not involve judgment toward others or myself.

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My brother and I destest each other -- sad, but true. I fully acknowledge that he and I possess very many similar traits. I'm not sure if he would acknowledge this or not, but it certainly is clear to others, and clear to me.

But my distaste for him is not based on those traits, but on the traits he has which we do not share. (Mostly having to do with how he treats members of our immediate family.) And in those traits we possess almost antithetical qualities.

In yet other traits, I admire those traits that he has, that I do not (for example, he is more methodical than I, and has greater endurance with tedoious tasks)

"Be seeing you..."

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Sorry for pasting this - but I cant say it better

When you want ONLY love you will see nothing else. The contradictory nature of the witnesses you perceive is merely the reflection of your conflicting invitations. You have looked upon your minds and accepted opposition there, having SOUGHT it there. But do not then believe that the witnesses for opposition are true, for they attest only to YOUR decision about reality, returning to you the message you GAVE them. Love is recognized by its messengers. If you make love manifest, its messengers will come to you because you INVITED them.

T 11 H 10. The power of decision is your one remaining freedom as a prisoner of this world. YOU CAN DECIDE TO SEE IT RIGHT. What YOU made of it is NOT its reality, for its reality is only what you GAVE it. You cannot really give anything but love to anyone or anything, nor can you really RECEIVE anything else from them. If you think you have received anything else, it is because you have looked within and thought you saw the power to give something else WITHIN YOURSELF. It was only this decision that determined what you found, for it was the decision of what you SOUGHT........


What you think is what you see?