Is there just one way or one rule to love or is every expression personal?

Do you have certain love boundaries or expectations that you define or carry to all your relationships?

If a friend of yours described a new relationship to you, could you tell who they were involved with just by the way they described this new partner?

Did you ever involve yourself in a relationship where the other person expected you to treat them to the same love that they experienced in a previous relationship?

Do we all have a signature way to express love? Is it important that we leave our fingerprint on the people we love or should we adjust, re-define or re-create our love depending on the type of person we are engaging a relationship with?

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Wow...a lot of great questions Cardero LOL

I think I can sum them up with....I am myself.

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IMO, as long as one starts out from the perspective of unconditional love, without being judgemental or having expectations, the rest will take take care of itself.

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I have noticed that people have a different idea of what love. Some think love is telling others how to live or to give so much help they cripple the person.

I think love has a lot to do with allowing others to just be. I agree with Don on being nonjudgmental and accepting. I also think love has a lot to do with really hearing what a person is telling you.

I'm not sure we should dwell on what fingerprint our love is leaving on someone, but rather are we creating an atmosphere where the other person can blossom.

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this is good.....

This is one of those loves that is easier said than done. I just wanted to let you know that I both agree and understand.

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She's Lightkeeper.

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Any expression of love is valid. Some expressions are deeper than others. Just make sure that it is real love; love the other, rather than yourself. If you're looking to gain something from the act of love, it is not as pure a level of love as if you are acting totally for the other.

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If you are talking about only feelings - the feeling of loving another then I agree with most posters that those feelings can be unconditional but when we put love into action, then we involve ourselves on a different level.

When this idea first came to me, it was hard to digest but now see the reasoning in the idea that when we show love to another, we also get something we desire as well, such as good feelings for being loving or the feeling of accomplishment for a task well done. If it were any other way, we would not feel good about our acts of kindness or compassion or giving to others in a loving way. So I do not think acting on love can be done unconditionally since we are rewarded in the process. That of course does not take away from being loving as I see it, because both parties receive from the act itself.

This is a very astute observation. I do think, however, that one can love unconditionally. When this concept you present is understood to it core, the subject and object within all relationships melts away (or merges together). At that point, there is nothing but love. I believe that is what would be described as unconditional love, because there is so much love that it simply overflows to those people that person encounters and relates with.

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