Hi all,

My oldest son, 18, is experiencing the hurt of first love. After 2 years, his girlfriend suddenly broke it off . Rumor has it while she was away at camp she hooked up with another guy and then came home and broke it off.

Though I am not sure what the truth is, it is hard to get to the details.

The worst part is she asked him to wait a year, they still call and text each other, etc....

My mom( his grandmother) talked to her mom yesterday when they returned some of his stuff. She is under the impression my son is stalking her daughter. My mom told her , her daughter is also calling and texting, that it is going both ways. Infact she sent him a text message just after her mom left my parents house. Unfortunately, since my son is 18 and has his own phone, I cant get the records to prove she is calling and texting him too.

It is all very fustrating, and my worst fear is they will get a restraining order against my son. My son is trying to honor the girls wishes of giving her a year to concentrate on her school work. In fact, to help him get over her and to give her space, we are sending him to live with my mom and Dad in Florida, when they move back there next month.

I really am at my wits end, what else to do. He does not want to hear my opinion on this, he claims he loves her and will wait, etc.

any ideas ?

~Peace

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It sounds to me like the girl's parents may be behind the breakup and that the girl isn't being honest with her parents. It sounds like she might have a reason not to tell them that she is text messaging your son. I seems strange that a girl would ask a guy to wait a year, that sounds like her parents talking or she thinks a year will change the situation. You didn't say how old the girl is, but it sounds like she is still in highschool while your son is finished.

Just tell your son you feel his pain and that you are there if he wants to talk.

Hopefully he will heal fast and feel better. Usually young hearts can heal faster than old hearts.

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She is 17 will be 18 in in 4 or 5 months.

My son is also finishing up HS but he is doing it online through a program in another state. He is considered homeschooled.

Funny you should say the parents may be behind it. That was what my mom felt also, in fact she has been saying that for a few months, that she gets the feeling her parents are trying to break them up. So she asked the mom this yesterday( when they came to return stuff) and she insists it is all her daughters idea and she is only supporting he daughters wishes.

It is very frustrating, my son was even willing to change his religion for this girl, to make him more acceptable. Her family has claimed they love my son , he is great, etc for 2 years and now all of a sudden he is no longer acceptable. They want to blame him for her grades going down, etc.
but I think she also needs to take responsibility for her part in her grades going down too.

To me there is part of the story missing, I just don't know what it is.

Thanks for the advice , LK

~Peace

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Now I'm even futher convinced the parents are behind this break up. It's strange for a 17 year old girl to ask a boy to wait a year. I think the parents have pressured her into this.

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