Would you say that you like to argue?

How many times on a typical day do you argue with someone?

I would.

Rarely.

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-Scott

It is undesirable to believe a proposition when there is no ground whatever for supposing it true. -- Bertrand Russell

I had this huge answer typed out and my husband accidentally lost it. Well, I could have argued but that would not have retreived my lost informations, so---I let it go.

I love to argue though. at least debate. It really depends on the mood and whether my chronic illness is full force or not so noticeable. Let's see what I can remember from the first time I wrote this. Forgive me if I screw up royally because I have become distracted. I can usually debate both sides of a given argument so it is hard for me to become totally angry.

I have up on my bathroom mirror this --

When someone disagrees with your ideas, realize that he's not attacking you personally. This perspective will help you be more open to listen to someone who disagrees with your position.

As an experiment, go an entire week without reacting defensively (unless it is necessary to do so to protect yourself from loss or harm).


I like to remember this--

Respond to the outbursts of others with humility. Agree with any truth you see in their statement. By agreeing with part of the person's comments, you are likely to calm him down. ("Yes, I was inconsiderate." "I agree with you that I can improve." "That was a stupid thing I did.")

Conversely, when you try to defend yourself, an angry person will usually keep up his attack. Arguing with him adds fuel to the fire. When you agree with him, however, he will see that he has no reason to keep arguing since you already agree with him. Some people find this difficult to do, but try this a few times, and you will see that it works wonders.

I could go on and on but I like this one in my bathroom too--

Learn to disagree without creating an unpleasant argument.
A mature disagreement is when two people both listen carefully to the other's position in order to understand the position and why the person feels that way.

Lastly I try to do this--

Accept the fact that no other person is exactly like you. This will save you from many problems in interpersonal relationships.
When the Torah commands us to "love your neighbor as yourself," that obviously means we should have unconditional love for those who are different from us.

I guess I have been working on being a better person! Have a great night. It is time for me to get some sleep---

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There is nothing that can help you understand your beliefs more than trying to explain them to an inquisitor....

Frank Clark

Nice post.

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-Scott

It is undesirable to believe a proposition when there is no ground whatever for supposing it true. -- Bertrand Russell

I can't stand people who argue incessantly. I speak my peace and try and achieve reconciliation with the person who is arguing with me. If that doesn't help then I simply bow myself out of the argument.

I don't like to argue, and thus, I don't do it very often. I am a very good listener to opinions, and I offer mine, and respect the others.

Unless I know for a FACT that I am correctr.

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I'm here to learn, but I may just give you an opinon!

I usually don't like to argue, and do it rarely. I'm usually not big on debate either, but I like to learn.