I think we can all understand that there are many feelings associated with a loss. Many also report a spiritual component, which is neither emotional or intellectual. Faith does not need reasoning or intellect to be. It is affected by the loss as much as the other areas. There seem to be two options when related to Faith: it can remain intact, regardless of the loss; or Faith is shaken, perhaps destroyed by the loss.

The loss of Faith usually occurs after a very traumatic loss, such as the death of a child, or some other sudden tragic death. This can cause the grieving person to lose faith in God, Allah or whomever one has faith. So, sometimes the incomplete relationship caused by that of the loss is actually one with that target of faith. One must, in time, attempt to rebuild that trust. For those whose Faith is undeterred, there is still action required to recover from the loss, as faith/prayer/meditation, etc. do not themselves do that work for you.

There are emotional communications that are unsaid/unsent that are at the core of the incomplete relationship. We need to decide to take the steps required to have those be completed. Those confusing, unfulfilled emotions can take hold of our emotional and functional being. Think about the losses in your life, i.e. death, job loss, divorce or other break-up, etc. Are there things you wish you could have said or done in that relationship? Think about that for next week when we discuss the acting recovered vs. choosing to truly recover from loss.