Here we will look at different things that come up to surprise or hinder you in your path to recovery.

First, with the death of a loved one:
The Halo Effect-remembering only the positive or negative of the
person. Try to tell a safe person little stories of both sorts, so that
you can keep the heart of the true relationship. Tell yourself in a
mirror.
The Discovery-finding something that reminds you of the person, an
emotional surprise. An item that slipped into the couch cushions,
a present that the person had hidden for you for your birthday,
a secret that the person has hidden (letters, porn, etc) that might
not be a good thing to confront. Let yourself express the emotion
you suddenly feel, be realistic, that was part of the relationship
whether you knew it or not. Then, either get rid of it or keep it in
a safe place, depending on your gut. Pass it on if that is what your
inner self is telling you.
The Social Outcast-suddenly you don't get invited to group things because
you are not part of the "couple" any more. Arrange to do things with
one or two of your "group", like lunch or shopping, or a project. Then
mention you miss the activities. Invite the group to your house for
dinner, etc. They may think it is painful for you to participate, take
action to show you would still like them in your life.
The Indecision-the other person used to make many of the decisions on the
finanaces, house or something else. Try to make the decision your-
self, using some of the logic the other person did, or getting good
advice from someone you trust, but, ultimately make YOUR decision.
Follow a routine of maintenance, etc. but do not jump on every
"reminder card" that sevice people send or call, sometimes they are
not the truth.