These are particularly difficult for people. With the passing of this child that you actually did not get to know, there is a passing of some level of hope, dreams and the future. There is sometimes a feeling of guilt connected, as the mother or father feels that they did something or had something wrong with them that made the loss occur. They also tend to ask "why" so much more than others. The steps in the previous discussions can help with this also, although the participant has to look more on the abstract rather than addressing specific incidents when do the timelines and letter.

One of the other side effects of these losses is the extent of fear or unease at a subsequent pregnancy....and that is where the understaing outsider can help. Try to avoid "You can have another child." or "You can try again." The potential parents have to not only recover from their grief but be brave enough to risk that loss again-in their minds, even if there is not a real reason to suspect reoccurance. the emotional connection is especially strong for the mother, as it begins as soon as she finds out she is expecting. The husband often follows with some event, such as feeling a kick or hears a heartbeat or sees an ultrasound picture.

So, completing this relationship is harder, because you have to complete what never was, complete plans rather than events. But, the point is, that this still, perhaps even more than some others, needs completion as a loss, so that the parents can move on. These folks have a right to grieve.
Peace.