Cate, is there anything you would like to discuss that we haven't touched base on yet?

Firstly regarding people visiting us in dreams--I am sorry, I thought I answered that but, if I was vague on something, please clarify for me.

As for something not covered....I and other Shamans of long time experience and battles with dark forces are concerned for people who tell people all they have to do send a negative spirit "into a white light".

People who adhere to this tenet do not specify, if they even know, that are many levels of spirit entities and the more demonic ones cannot be sent in to a light so matter of factly.

There are famous psychics that take this approach and it concerns me greatly because it might prevent people under seige from seeking professional assistance.

Cate, can you give us some examples of "healing through the everyday magic that surrounds us?"

For one thing, especially in these difficult and stresssed out times, it is hard to maintain a faithful spirit.

I myself have suffered through many "labors" which burdened my heart and spirit.

When all things were in chaos, when I lost so many loved ones in such a short period of time and witnesssed so much suffering my loved ones were going through until their deaths
I clung to one premise.

I calculated how many seconds there were in twenty-four hours. I then looked at the things I had during that period of time: a home, food, supportive friends, my husband, my daughter and so one. Each and every one was and is a miracle in and of themselves especially when I underwent so much personal sorrow!

For each ONE I multiplied it by the number of seconds in a day which is 86,400. But doing the math, I realized I am blessed beyond measure!

I learned how to stop and watch the butterflies congregate in my driveway, watch my dogs and cats rumble about and allow the breeze (or cold wind), rain or sun embarce me.

I relish the thunderstorms with all their magical lightening turning dark night into a brilliant day instant after instant. These are all amazing things- miracles to make me see more miracles.

It is all about a mind shift that comes about as we work our ability to "see".

Cate, can you tell us what effects having an alcoholic parent had on you and what you did to heal from that? I know this is a common situation. There are a lot of controlled alcoholics who are in denial of the problem and so are the families of these people. I think denial is very damaging.

Denial of the problem and the genetic possibility of the problem can be a serious problem. Denial that the problem exists in a family member is actually enabling or buying into the dysfunction of the disease. Alcoholism does take a toll on everyone and to deny that one is affected leaves one open to re-enacting painful scenarios such as attracting substance abusers and remaining in unhealthy relationships in an attempt to work out related conflicts.

In my case, and it took time, I resolved to be the exact opposite. I had no interest in substance abuse and whereas I did have periods of time in which I was able to drink grown men under the table when I was young, it was short lived. I chose to never be in a relationship with an alcoholic or substance abuser. Period. Paragraph.

The damage done can be likened to having an absentee parent- the parent is there but not really there for you. There is always a wall and always anxiety because you don't know when a confrontation is going to occur.

Healing for me came about when I did many self inventories and decided I did not to feel the pain, insecurity and lack of love that I felt for many years.

I chose to look at myself and my abilities and make myself the person I wanted to be. It was long and it took a lot of work, especially when it came to negating all the negative things I was told for so many years. I loved my father but had to look at the "source" of the criticism and realized he was a man in legitimate pain, poor emotional skills who projected his feelings about himself onto me.

With love I forgave him and accepted that the father I loved was very flawed because of hardships he had endured. Once I was strong enough to believe in myself, I was able to let the pain go.

Thank you, Cate for another wonderful reply. I reacted very similarly to the way you reacted. I refuse to use substances or to be in a relationship with anyone who uses. It took many years, but I was eventually able to forgive and love.

I think the biggest problem in the family weren't so much the users but the people who have been in denial of the problem and how damaging it is to everyone involved.

I decided to develop myself and my talents and that was the biggest favor I could do for the users. I don't know that they can ever feel the depth of a glorious sunset.

What you say is so true and ine the end, people can only do the best they can but we can choose to have more....

Can you tell us about some of your experiences with faeries?

To be honest, they have not been as forthcoming with me as other spirits have been although many a night they have bounced around my property in huge numbers as different forms of light!

Quite a light show to be sure. They are blessing my garden, and I have a black thumb so I know they are showing me some kindness in this regard.

I talk to them a lot as they reside here with us.

I am still waiting for contact in more depth.