Thanks vivamis123 nice to meet you!

Welcome to the forum, it's good to have you here.

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Quite a few things make me angry:
~Liars.
~Cheaters.
~Lying cheaters.
~People who don't listen.
~People who can't stand jerks but they act just the same.
~The fact that we're in Iraq but not in Darfur.
~People who think just because you talked to them once just ONCE that you're automatically friends.
~Closed Minded People.
~People who say they're not closed minded but they think that "closed minded" people's oinions are wrong.
~People who think that just because someone wants to be a housewife they don't have dreams and can't think for themselves.
~People who don't want their children to be with someone of a different religion or race. I understand that yes their cultures may clash, but if they love each other they'll work it out.
~People who always use "Muslim" and "terrorist" in the same sentence.

Who makes me angry?

I do. I can choose whether to allow another person to push my buttons or not. I can choose to allow another to upset me or I can choose to not react in anger. Anger is always a choice, just as any feeling is, IMO and in my experience.

I used to say things like, "Oh, he made me so angry". Then when I learned that I control my feelings, no one else, it brought such freedom. I decided I didn't want to be angry all the time so I stopped letting others push my buttons.

There are still times when I forget to choose and I become angry but they are few and far between any more . I have a lot less stress in my life these days because I don't let many things or people push my buttons.

Maggie

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As has been mentioned once or twice earlier on this thread, I understand anger this way:

If there is something that we want, or something that we want to avoid, and something comes as either an obstacle to the want or a removal of the barrier to what is not wanted, then we become angry. That anger is taken out on the obstacle, whether it be a person or an object.

In Sanskrit, we have a term, raga-dvesha. These are likes and dislikes - either things we want or things we want to avoid.

A good practice for anger management is, when anger arises, to watch it and observe that an obstruction to a desire has just taken place. It doesn't matter if the desire was for something or was to avoid something. Then notice whether we are taking the anger out on the obstacle (this is always the case). When we do this, the anger usually subsides on its own, because it becomes obvious that it was our own raga-dvesha (like or dislike) and our immature belief that we should always get what we want that initially created the problem.

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I try to avoid anger..it is not good for you...BUT if anything makes me angry...it's probably closed mined people!!

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